I got yelled at tonight. Not the type of yelling that someone does when you’ve done something to tick someone off, but the kind of yelling that was a swift kick in the pants about something that I’m NOT doing.

I probably deserved it. I needed to hear it. But it made me edgy and I tried to make excuses.

Nope! That didn’t work. I continued to get the lecture.

Now I know you are all dying to know what I did that wasn’t exactly right. Mary? Got yelled at? How DARE they?

Here’s what happened. Tonight my husband and I met out a friend from swimming and a woman I set him up with on a blind date. Lets call him Bill. If you read the entry that he dances to his own tune, then you’ve met Bill.

In my book, he’s a consistent and dedicated swimmer. The lecture was about the fact that: I’M NOT.

I miss practice. I get there a tad late. And, I miss practice.

I told him I HAVE A LIFE. I have a child! I need my sleep!

He reminded me that I have a goal. I want to make nationals. I want to lower my time. I’m pretty close to doing it too.

So, here I am at 3 in the morning writing about the fact that I got yelled at. And I think it worked. I know he’s right and I’m going to change my schedule around a bit so I can make the practices more often. I was going to about 3 a week instead of 4.

Earlier this week I dropped a note to friend who is an entrepreneur. He and his partner had a yelling match on the phone. I know them both well and they’re both working hard at building their business. They had a disagreement and I tried to help smooth over the conflict.

I got this email from my friend that I liked:

Mary: Thank you for your insight?.Every tree that yields fruit must be shaken to get the best from the top.

So, I thought about it for a while and realized that the conflict did shake things up. It got them both out of their comfort zone. It made them think about what really was the answer to their problem. Because they didn’t dance around the problem and play nice they were able to solve the issues more quickly.

I’m always the type that wants to avoid conflict. I think that a lot of people are like me. Its easier to talk things out than yell and get to the bottom line. But I see how that works.

Now I’m not proposing that anyone else should go out and confront anyone just to be able to yell at someone, but I do think that honest confronting can be exactly the thing to make someone step up to the plate, take ownership and pull their weight or change some sort of negative behavior. It’s sometimes quicker than having discussion after discussion. It’s certainly more memorable. And sometimes, it can get you up at 3 in the morning to blog about it!

But lets just SEE if it’ll get me out of bed for 5:30am swim practice more times a week! I’m betting on YES.

Mary Gardner, The Charisma Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She owned and operated one of the first coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABC’s 20/20 and has self published a book on public speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL.

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Tonight I’m going out with two extremely impressive ladies who I am introducing to one another. They are both GORGEOUS, in their mid 20s and both incredibly intelligent. One is divorced with kids and is probably one of the most flawless and incredibly beautiful women I’ve ever met, the other is single and possibly one of the most fashionable and forward thinking women I’ve ever met.

One of these ladies I’ve been coaching for over a year, the other is a new client. I thought that they would really enjoy each other because they are both serious about their work, both make a lot of money, are very smart and they have another few things in common.

They FLIRT!

Okay, let me get one thing straight. Neither of them HAS to flirt. Men would fall all over either of them just because of their beauty alone. But they both have very outgoing personalities and are charming in addition to being smart. They also have ANOTHER thing in common.

WOMEN DESPISE THEM.

I know! Can you believe it!? Women hate both of these ladies because of their beauty and their talent. Not only do women despise them but they are torturous to them! They talk behind their backs, they spread rumors and they treat them mean.

CAT FIGHT, CAT FIGHT.. I can just hear all of you guys now! Oh PLEASE! I know enough about you guys to know that you have envy too, but you just handle it differently.. like try to injure each other on the basketball court, or kill each other on the golf course. Okay, maybe not as much, but men are naturally competitive and it drives you harder. You often feel you have control over your destiny since you are often judging yourself on your income.

Women? We get judged on our looks first, and THEN everything else.

The thing about both of these women is that they are some of the nicest people I know. They are fun and lively and smart. They are ambitious and they are interesting to talk to. I have enjoyed getting to know both of them very much and I just know that if women would take some time to get to know them, they’d enjoy their company. But instead, the women demean themselves by displaying raging jealousy and use up all of their energy in a negative way? instead of being productive.

Okay, let me address the fact that they flirt. What I’ve counseled at least one of the ladies to do is to be personable and friendly when work isn’t the primary focus, but when presenting to an audience, especially in a mixed group, professionalism is the best bet.

One rule of thumb: Don’t flirt at the office. Okay, if you do flirt, then just don’t flirt in front of other women. That brings up insecurity in other women. And DON”T flirt with another woman’s man when she’s there. That is the ULTIMATE “no no”!

So I have two challenges here for ladies. If you are beautiful and in business A) Be better than everyone else at your job. Come early, stay late and be committed to your company. If people are going to be talking about you (and they will) at least they won’t be able to say that you don’t work hard. You know that they’ll be saying things like that you “slept your way to the top” and that can be damaging to your reputation. So be the #1 employee in your department and do whatever you can do education wise to stay on top.

Next, be a supporter to other women. You are a target for hatred, jealousy and other women’s insecurity. Whatever you can do to pull women together or serving them will help women get over your major issue of beauty. If you are a mom and don’t have time to throw networking get “togethers”, then at least make sure you have a few female friends in your back pocket to commiserate with. I’ve encouraged these women to get on a sports team so they aren’t seen as the “pretty and successful” ones there. They can be sweating it out looking gross like everyone else.

“Although I bet these two women don’t sweat. They’re too perfect. You should see them, I bet they never have ANY problems.. I have had to work SO much harder than them and I never had anyone coaching me when I was THEIR age. Hmmmmph!”

Ooopss!! I guess I even have to catch myself at times. I remind myself that we are all on our own paths and that while beauty and money may make life a bit easier, they can make it a bit more challenging too.

And you knon LOVE a challenge!

For more information: mary@marygardner.com or Web: www.marygardner.com

Mary Gardner, The Charisma Coach! is an Executive Communications Consultant and Trainer. She works with, coaches and trains individuals, sales teams, executives, and celebrities. She owned and operated one of the first coaching institutions on the east coast, CCI, in NYC, Philly and NJ. Mary has appeared on ABC’s 20/20 and has self published a book on public speaking. Mary is married to Sway and is mommy to Jeremy 5, and lives in Orlando, FL.

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In 2008, Hublot agreed a sponsorship deal with the football club Manchester United, worth £4 million a year. In March 2010, Hublot was appointed the Official Watchmaker of Formula 1™. In April 2010 Hublot became the official time keeper of the 2010FIFA World Cup and the 2014 FIFA World Cup.

The Jean-Claude Biver era

Carlo Crocco, preoccupied by his own design work and many activities for the Hand-in-Hand Foundation, a charity helping deprived children all around the world, set out to look for the man who could oversee his watchmaking business. In late 2003, Jean-Claude Biver met Carlo Crocco, and in May 2004, Jean-Claude Biver assumed his duties as CEO, becoming a board member and minority shareholder in Hublot watches.

Subsidiaries

Hublot owns two subsidiaries, one in the United States and the other in Japan. It continues to produce “Classic” watches in parallel to the “Big Bang” collection. The number of pieces produced stood at 24,000 in 2007 and is estimated to reach 30,000 in 2008.

With the arrival of Jean-Claude Biver in 2004, the brand’s sales hit 24 million Swiss francs. By the end of 2006, sales were bordering on the 100 million Swiss franc mark.

The brand has grown since the arrival of Jean-Claude Biver and forecasts show sales of 150 million for the end of 2007 and 220 million for 2008. A new manufacture is planned for the beginning of 2009.

Hublot stores

In February 2007, Hublot opened its first mono-brand store in Paris, in the Rue Saint-Honoré. The second was opened in the summer, in the Hôtel Byblos, Saint-Tropez.

Hublot WiseKey

At BaselWorld 2009, Hublot released a new way to detect counterfeit watches. Using a WiseKey smart card the system authenticates watches on Hublot’s servers. It will appear in August of 2009.

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A raging wildfire in northern Arizona that has consumed 15,000 acres of vegetation was about 50 percent contained by Saturday, authorities said.

Known as the Schultz fire, the blaze, which is located about 8 km north of Flagstaff and west of north Highway 89, was helped by a combination of the weather and the strong winds.

The fire, which was believed to have been started by an abandoned campfire Sunday, threatened homes, watersheds and wilderness areas in Coconino National Forest, the management team said.

As of Saturday, Highway 89 has opened while all other roads and trails in the vicinity of the fire still remain closed.

Fire danger is considered high to extreme in Arizona, which has seen two wildfires burn more than 3,000 acres each in the last month. Relief isn’t expected until next month, when summer monsoons start bringing rain to the region, according to authorities.

Nine hundred firefighters battling the wildfire were focusing on the west, north and southwest edges of the blaze. Houses on the east edge, where hundreds of residents had been evacuated, are now out of danger, The Arizona Republic newspaper reported.

Fire crews have also made gains against other three wildfires in the state. The Eagle Rock Fire which covers 3,420 acres was 100 percent contained on Friday.

Other fires on smaller scales were expected to put out over the weekend, according to the report.

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Hublot owns two subsidiaries, one in the United States and the other in Japan. It continues to produce “Classic” watches in parallel to the “Big Bang” collection. The number of pieces produced stood at 24,000 in 2007 and is estimated to reach 30,000 in 2008.

With the arrival of Jean-Claude Biver in 2004, the brand’s sales hit 24 million Swiss francs. By the end of 2006, sales were bordering on the 100 million Swiss franc mark.

The brand has grown since the arrival of Jean-Claude Biver and forecasts show sales of 150 million for the end of 2007 and 220 million for 2008. A new manufacture is planned for the beginning of 2009.

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In 1980, Carlo Crocco created the Hublot watch in gold fitted with the first natural black rubber strap in the history of watchmaking. It took 3 years of research to create the strap. The watch proved to be a market success and laid the basis for the watch manufacture.

In the mid-90s, rubber became the focus of interest for watchmaking brands. Hublot remains one of the last independent family-run watchmaking businesses with a unique mono-product concept. Hublot was able to preserve its personality and extend its range to include an array of collections, some featuring sports complications and limited editions.

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In the first quarter of 2010, 19 new anti-dumping probes were launched worldwide, and nine of them targeted products exported from China, meaning China remains the biggest target of trade remedies, said the World Bank in its latest report on trade and international integration.

All the probes launched against China may become new trade restrictions, according to the report.

There was a 20 percent decrease in newly-initiated investigations in which domestic industries request the imposition of new import restrictions compared to the number during the same time period in 2009, according to the report.

It follows the fourth quarter of 2009, which also saw a 20 percent decrease relative to the same time period in 2008.

In addition to the anti-dumping probes, 10 of the 15 newly-activated trade protection policies made China a target.

The statistics from the report showed that China is encountering a growing number of anti-dumping investigations. The figure was four in 2008, 12 in 2009 and has increased to nine in only the first quarter of 2010.

This was not in line with the global trend of decreasing trade remedy actions, according to the report.

However, the report did not discuss the reason why China faces growing trade frictions.

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China’s stock index futures fell Friday with the contract for June, the most actively traded, down 1.08 percent from the previous trading day to end at 2,865.2 points.

The July contract lost 1.15 percent to 2,880.8 points. The September contract was down 1.14 percent to 2,910.8 and the December contract ended 0.91 percent lower at 2,969.6.

The stock-index contracts, agreements to buy or sell the Hushen 300 Index at a preset value on an agreed date, are designed to allow investors to bet on and profit from both gains and declines in the market.

The index futures was launched at the China Financial Futures Exchange (CFFEX) and started trading from April 16, 2010. The CFFEX has set the base value for all the four contracts at 3,399 points.

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friends are very   important for me  .they make my life more colorful. my   friends and i ofen spend time toget-her .we discuss sc-hoolworks as well as pop stars . when i’m in trouble,i tu-rn to my friends    for help. they giv-e advice and enco-urage me all the  timd.
i like to have frien-ds who are differ-ent from me. my   best friend john is taller and more       outgoingth-an me.we both lik-e sports ,but john is more athleticthan me.and i’m a little quieter .with his help ,i kno-w more things an-d and people tha-n before. when i’mupset.he al-ways makes me   laugh . he believes  anybody can mak-e if he set his min-d on it .so do i .
how nice it is to     have such friends!i like my friends!

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SAN FRANCISCO IXHUATAN, Mexico (AP) — Authorities have recovered the bodies of 15 Central American migrants whose boat capsized in the Pacific Ocean, the Mexican navy said on Saturday.

Military personnel and rescue workers carry the body of one of the victims of the shipwreck Saturday.

The vessel was believed to be carrying more than 20 migrants.

Survivor Noemi Martinez, 29, of El Salvador, said the boat departed from Guatemala and capsized Tuesday with more than 20 people aboard, according to Moises Hernandez, regional commander for ministerial police in Oaxaca.

State authorities identified the only other known survivor as Salvadoran Walter Alan, 23.

Search efforts were suspended on Saturday because of heavy rain that flooded rivers and creeks.

Earlier, a military helicopter searched the sea while state authorities combed the beach near the towns of San Francisco Ixhuatan and San Francisco del Mar, about 200 miles from the Guatemalan border.

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